3 Habits To Be Happier
Agreed certain situations are not in our control. However, how much we let external factors let us affect us depends to a great extent on us. We can choose to remain calm and happy, even amid chaos. Sounds difficult but can be achieved. If we can cultivate some habits, we can enjoy better mental health, leading to a fuller life. Here are 3 habits that have helped me sail through tough times in a calmer way. Surely, they can help you too!
Not Lashing Out Immediately
It’s perfectly natural for each one of us to feel angry at some point or the other. No matter how balanced one is, sometimes you will feel like lashing out. While ‘keeping it inside’ is not advisable, lashing out and being rude at every instance is also not. When disappointed, give yourself some time to absorb the hurt; don’t react immediately. Most of the time, we repent immediate reactions. These actions, later on, cause a lot of stress and extended damage to our mental health and relationships. Move away from the situation. That helps in calming your brain and heart and helps you in taking a more positive decision about the situation. Try it!
Not Blaming Yourself for Everything
Many of us suffer from the habit of blaming ourselves for all the wrongs in the world. Also, we are in the habit of feeling bad about feeling hurt. Develop the habit of being compassionate toward yourself; love yourself. If you have failed in something, no need to beat yourself up for it. As long as you realize your mistake, apologize and showcase the courage to move on, you are good. No one is perfect in this world. Mistakes make us stronger. We all learn from our mistakes and evolve. Feel bad about the situation but don’t consider yourself bad because of the situation.
Not Being Rigid
Cultural contexts make us conform to a few beliefs and practices. Following these often become our habit. Remember as we grow, our circumstances change and so should our belief system. Definitely, a few beliefs form our core value system and we should never compromise on them but being a bit flexible with our behavior helps. The definition of right and wrong remains highly skewed in many cases. Evaluate situations with an open mind and develop the habit of being able to make slight adjustments if required. This will make circumstances more peaceful and enjoyable.
As emotional beings, we are bound to get affected by our surroundings and people’s behavior towards us, but bringing some changes in ourselves can make the journey more enjoyable. Inculcating these habits can help us live a better life.
